Having a Baby at 23
Being a young mom is tough. I will be the first to admit it. But being a mother is the most rewarding thing in my life.
Having a baby at 23 was my choice. My boyfriend and I planned to bring her into the world when we discovered we were expecting. She wasn’t planned in terms of getting pregnant but we made the best of our situation.We planned to raise her to the best of our ability. We planned to love her unconditionally. We planned to raise her as a team, to show her that her mommy and daddy are united and are very much in love.
Having a baby didn’t make my social life go away. She has enriched my social life so much more. Granted I was never the 23 year old who loved to go out to clubs at night. I preferred going to a winery and wine tasting and then coming home to make dinner and a movie. Having a baby hasn’t prevented us from doing the things we love. Now we incorporate her into our plans. Harley joins us for dinner with friends or the occasional beer at the brewery.
Having a baby didn’t make me lose my ambitions. I am still pursuing nursing school. I didn’t take a term off. Having Harley didn’t make me lose my self worth. She enhanced it. She has allowed me to see that life has way more importance when I focus on someone else. I am in school to better her life. To give her the best life possible. I am staying in school to prove to her that education is the most important part of her life.
Having a baby at 23 has made me face big life decisions early on. In a generation that is obsessed with constantly finding something better, having a child means settling down. In a world full of online dating, Tinder Swipes and casual hookups, having a child at an early age is strange. But having a child has fulfilled my life more than I could of ever imagined. I love being a mom and I can’t wait to show Harley the world.